I never really set resolutions for 2016 because for me, resolutions are something that you attempt, succeed in or fail (let’s be honest, I totally still eat the Indian takeaways and drink the red wine and therefore fail) and then go back to doing the total opposite once January is over.
I never set resolutions because the only thing I really hoped for in 2016 was to be a happy and more positive person. And I felt like this would be something quite easy to achieve as so many wonderful things happened and came my way in 2015. And then December hit, and things started to get a little tricky. (Don’t worry, this isn’t a pity party for one, it’s just giving some context as to why I felt compelled to write this post).
When I say “things got tricky”, what I actually mean is “EVERY GOD DAMN BONE, MUSCLE, LIGAMENT, JOINT, TENDON AND BASICALLY EVERYTHING IN MY BODY HURT AND I WAS CONSTANTLY EXHAUSTED, CONSTANTLY HAD A HEADACHE AND FELT LIKE I’D BEEN RUN OVER BY A BUS” [insert exhausted cry emoji/guilty face for all of the capitals emoji here].
In short – because you know me and this could easily get long and rambly and 20,000 words long – I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia… and as much as this was pretty devastating timing wise as I was so excited and positive for the year ahead, I suddenly had a realisation that this could go either way. I could be down in the dumps
and moany as fuck or I could turn this around and really test my “Be positive b*tch” resolution, and that’s exactly what I did. And whilst yes, I still can’t really vlog because I can’t lift my arms up for longer than 5 seconds, and I now have to schedule my days strategically so that I don’t collapse on the PR mid lunch meeting (slight exaggeration but not too far off) … I am positive. I do believe that this will get better. I do believe that I can still achieve everything that I hoped for this year. And I still believe that 2016 will be frickin bloody great for all of us [insert non-existent Oprah Winfrey emoji here].
So I decided to put together my top tips for being a more positive person to help anybody else in a similar situation stay positive, and to be honest, to help myself too…
I’d heard this quote thrown around quite a few times before and as much as I wanted to believe it and told myself that I did, I don’t think I truly felt it deep down. (Can we just take a moment to appreciate that I’m practically Gandhi right now?) But it’s true, no I promise you… it really is, positivity is a choice. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes when you’re having a really bad day and everything is going wrong, I’m not telling you to go and hug a tree and feel like you’re having the best day of your life. But looking for the positives in every situation (no matter how small they may be) and focusing on those will really help your mindset.
Like positivity is a choice, choosing who you surround yourself with is too. Now this is a tricky one because I’m not saying ditch everyone that’s ever said anything slightly wrong, we’d all be left with no friends – unless you’re friends with Harvey Spector/Ryan Gosling etc. who of course can do absolutely no wrong 😉 – but I think everybody has experienced that one really negative person that only brings misery and negativity to their lives and you know what, life is far too short to surround yourself with people that bring you down. I am so lucky to have so many people I would call friends, but I have a very small group of best friends and those are the ones that can always make me laugh, give me great advice, be caring and generally just help me to be a more positive and happy person. Those are the people that when you find them, you need to keep them close.
Simple, costs you nothing and takes absolutely no effort, but when you’re feeling a little down, just smiling to yourself immediately lifts your mood. I also love this tip because doing this in public definitely makes you feel like a bit of tit – Oh hey random girl smiling away to herself on the train – which in turn, makes you laugh even more, subsequently feeling more happy and positive. Everyone’s a winner 🙂