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NEW YEAR, SAME ME

08/01/2017

January is always such a strange time for me. A new year apparently brings a fresh start and therefore I always find myself thinking “OK fab, so… what is really crap about me, what can I change, what do I need to stop doing, how can I turn myself into Gigi Hadid?” (it’s usually “stop swearing, stop eating all the chocolate and start exercising for once in your life” and of course, I fail on approximately January 3rd.

And do you know what, it’s not only bloody tiring and demoralising and exhausting, it’s damn right completely unconducive to a happy self to sit there and pick at all the things you don’t like. After the awful end to 2016 – written about here if you have no idea what I’m talking about but basically, going through a break up – it is outrageously easy to pick on yourself. It is beyond easy to pick out all of your flaws and judge yourself in the worst possible way… and this year I’ve decided that I’m changing that. One thing I realised over 2016 is that if we don’t have respect for ourselves, how do we expect others to respect us?

So, with that in mind, today’s post is going to be about a few things that I like about myself (if anyone knows me, you’ll know that picking out my pro’s/bigging myself up makes me feel impossibly uncomfortable, but they say life begins at the end of your comfort zone, right?), it’s going to feature an outfit I love, some jewellery pieces that I refuse to take off and basically, a whole lotta New Year feel good factor.  

I’m OK with that…


All Jewellery (linked individually below)Jewellery Box / TopDorothy Perkins / TrousersH&M / ShoesRiver Island 

Self deprecation 

I always feel slightly ironic calling myself self deprecating because maybe even doing so means that you’re not? But one comment that I get more than anything is that I always put myself down, I’d rather laugh at myself than praise myself /…. and I totally agree. If I’m honest, I’m not sure it’s always said as a compliment – we live in a world where it’s much more impressive to big yourself up and act like a sassy girl boss but actually, I believe that actions speak louder than words – but you know what, I take it as the biggest compliment. Being referred to as humble and relatable means so much more to me than any other compliment about my outfit, makeup, or what I look like that day. Success to me is being a humble, loyal, friendly person.


Friendliness 
I am a friendly person. That feels really weird and braggy and horrible to even say – you see, I’m really shocking at this “ain’t I great” shiz – but honestly, I just am. I love a good chat and I can’t bear to see anyone on there own so I will always go out of my way to make anybody feel comfortable and part of a group. I don’t know whether it’s a mothering/maternal thing but I just always want to make people feel comfortable, happy and good about themselves which is why I try (sometimes I just forget) to compliment everyone I meet in some way, because it’s those little things that can often make someone’s day!

Loyalty
If you are a loyal friend to me that has my back and is there when I need you/generally in life, I will go to the ends of the earth to be there for you. Honestly, the older I get, the more perspective I have when it comes to friends and for the people that are my true, loyal friends… you gal pals are right at the very top of my priority list. Whether it’s making the 2hour train journey to see them, texting every day to check in or even just sending a funny gif that will no doubt cheer them up… I am a loyal person and despite feeling incredibly awkward complimenting myself, that is one thing that I am extremely proud of.

Strength
3 months ago, “strong” wouldn’t have been a word that I used to describe myself despite it being one that others did. But a whole host of horrendous, life-altering events made me realise that I am stronger than I ever even dreamed possible. I realised that rather than lying in bed with a family size chocolate bar and a very large Dominoes Pizza and all of the tears, I could pick myself up, paint on a face, do terrifying things (like live brand shoots for example) and just get shit done. So I guess maybe I am pretty strong. Or maybe I just cope. All I know is that I’m pretty proud of the girl writing this who has been through hell and back and is actually smiling away, positive and excited for 2017… because November 2016 Elle would not even recognise her.

Ok, we’ve reached the point where I’m referring to myself in third person and also want to scratch my eyeballs out reading nice things that I’ve written about myself, let’s move on to what I wore when I shot these pictures and froze so much that I had to have 3 hot chocolates to feel any kind of normal again.
I like jewellery, I like it a lot. But I am very specific about what I wear and I nearly always unintentionally end up with pieces that mean something. For example, this absolutely stunning Dream catcher bracelet (would you judge me if I told you that even thinking about dream catching gives me all the warm, fuzzy vibes?), not only is it absolutely gorgeous and delicate and statement whilst remaining completely demure, it also reminds me to chase my dreams. Not necessarily catch them because I don’t think big enough dreams are easy enough to catch, but to work my butt off and set goals and dream hard and not stop until I’ve made them all happen.

The Karma necklace. This might be one of my all time favourite pieces because not only is it beautifully delicate, but Karma holds a special place in my heart. I wholeheartedly believe that what we put out into this world we get back (at least, in this day and age I have to believe that this is true) and it just inspires me to be a nicer, kinder more thoughtful person. The necklace itself got a whopping 4 compliments from strangers – yes strangers – in the two hours that I froze to death shooting these pictures… now that is impressive!

I am all about the delicate – are you sensing a running theme here? – stacking rings and the gorgeous Infinity loop and heart knot ring have become my everyday go to’s. Dainty, intricate and very stylish too… I can’t say these two necessarily have meaning to me – the irony of having just gone through a breakup and choosing infinity love and a knot ring [insert eye roll emoji here] – but maybe it’s a sign of hope.

Or maybe it’s just loving the rings because they so damn cute!

So that’s it from me and this little “omg look at my babein jewellery”/feel good post. Despite finding it outrageously difficult to talk about myself in such a positive light, I think it actually did me the world of good. Sometimes I think that we all need to take a little moment to appreciate what we have, the good things about ourselves and the fact that New year, same me doesn’t have to be boring… it’s actually empowering to value yourself. So thank you Jewellery Box for not only providing me with pieces of jewellery that I can.not.stop.wearing, but also for launching such an empowering, positive campaign. You my faves <3

I’d love to know your thoughts on the New Year, Same Me ethos? Do you have any favourite jewellery pieces from today’s post? I always love hearing your thoughts!

As always, thanks so much for reading!

xx
This post was kindly sponsored by Jewellery Box. All thoughts, photos and extreme love of their gorgeous jewellery and good vibes, my own.

43 responses to “NEW YEAR, SAME ME”

  1. Love this post! I'm going to try and hit the gym more this year (I bought my membership yesterday) but otherwise I'm happy just continuing being me and being there for my friends. Love the jewellery you have on it's so petite and feminine.

    Abigail Alice πŸ’—

  2. Rosy Ferry says:

    If strangers are complimenting your jewels you know that you've picked a good one! It is stunning πŸ™‚ On a more serious note, well done on having the strength and courage to not try and change yourself this year, reaching a point where you're happy with yourself is a huge step and definitely not something to try and change, I'm the same as you with putting myself down all the damned time and I'm also friendly and hate seeing people left out of a group. I'm sorry that 2016 seemed like such a bad year for you and here's to 2017, let's hope it's a good one!

    Rosy | Sparkles of Light Blog
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  3. I love what you've said about loyalty and friendship, I think you are such a wonderful person and your writing reflects that! I completely agree with new year, new me too! I can't be doing with all this change overnight BS xx

    Sam // What I Know Now

  4. Nora Gouma says:

    Wow, the pictures are truly amazing, your outfit is absolutely awesome, I love it, love your blog as well. Thank you for sharing, you look fabulous!!!

    xxx

    http://www.noragouma.com

  5. Frances says:

    I love this post girly! It's so important to reflect on all of the good things about yourself – positive thoughts attract more positive thoughts after all! It's only up from here πŸ™‚ xx

    Frances Kayleigh

  6. Angie Silver says:

    The jewellery is gorgeous and I just love the Gucci bag. You are so lovely and approachable in person hon, I hope to meet you again this year.

  7. Keep on being you, Ellie. You're honestly one of the most genuine and sweet people in the blogosphere!! I could relate to you and nod away pretty much to every paragraph. Haha, I wouldn't mind being a Gigi Hadid but then again, I love being me much more πŸ™‚
    You're definitely all of the things you mentioned and more <3
    One of the biggest things I treasure in people, especially someone I can call a friend, is trust which comes from loyalty and honesty. So hard to find but thankfully, still possible πŸ™‚
    Absolutely adore each photo! Babe, you rockin that outfit, not looking blue & not freezing to death is always a huge accomplishment πŸ˜€
    Happy new year, lovely!! So happy to be back to The Elle Next Door and have a little read <3
    xox Nadia
    http://www.mielandmint.com

  8. Happy New Year, I hope 2017 will bring you happiness and all the best! I am so sorry to hear that you had to go through a lot, breakups are hard πŸ™ You're stronger than you could ever imagine, not a lot of people would have been that strong after going through a lot. New year, same me… That's how I feel as well. Your photos are beautiful, you look gorgeous! I really like the minimal necklace, it is so pretty! x

    Ela BellaWorld

  9. BeauTeagenes says:

    Happy New Year lovely! This is such a positive and inspiring post. I love that your such a loyal friend and would say that I am also a very loyal person. That said my aim for 2017 is to make sure I see all my best friends (who are spread all around the country) as much a possible. I always feel my most confident and happy when I'm around the people I love so going to surround myself with them as much as poss in 2017.

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  10. Corinne says:

    Fab post and it's very refreshing after reading all the 'i need to lose weight' posts that are flying about this time of year!

    Corinne x
    http://www.skinnedcartree.com

  11. What a refreshing post! I think it should become more common to talk about the good qualities of ourselves than picking out the things we don't like. Happy New Year Elle! Hope it's a great one for you πŸ™‚

    Kathlyn | Kathlyn's Korner

  12. Gal pals forever, it's always important to remember and stick with those who care about you!!

    Lauren x
    Britton Loves | Lifestyle Beauty Wellbeing

  13. I bloody love this (not only because you're looking like a total babe in your pics)! It's so important to look at the good qualities in ourselves.. I think I put myself down a bit too much sometimes! xx

    Jessie | allthingsbeautiful-x

  14. You look beautiful in these photos! Although I bet you were completely frozen! Why is England so cold, it makes doing outfit photos so much harder haha! I really like how you did this blog post and focused on all of the positive things! I feel like no one ever does their resolutions anyway haha.. or at least I don't XD It's been like 5 years and I still don't have abs :') xx

  15. Alina Bostan says:

    YES to reading a positive post like this were you're actually pointing out all the things you like about yourself rather than what you want to wok on changing! As always I absolutely loved reading through and looking at all your amazing pics. You're such a babe and these jewellery pics are right up my street x

    Beauty with charm

  16. mahryska says:

    back to catching up with fave bloggers and getting inspired with their style…
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  17. Babes I bloody LOVE this post! I think we all need to start being kinder to ourselves, it's so easy to pick on our flaws and the parts we don't like, but every once in a while a pat on the back is A-ok! P.s you look absolutely BABE'IN in these pictures – loving that bracelet!

    Hayley xo
    http://www.frockmeimfamous.com

  18. I agree with you, we should respect ourselves before we expect others to do so! We should definitely be kinder to ourselves than we often are. Also, I love your outfit!
    WritingMonique

  19. Call Me Amy says:

    Girrrl I LOVE this post! It's so positive and I just love that you've listed things that you like about yourself (and also love the irony that one of the things you love about yourself is your self deprecation!) You do put yourself down too much, but if I'm honest it probably is a compliment because the fact you do that does just make you 100% more relatable than someone who's super confident because I imagine the majority of your readers are equally self deprecating!
    Amy xx
    http://www.callmeamy.co.uk

  20. S, x says:

    I LOVE this post Elle – plus you look like an absolutely gorgeous sassy babe in these photos!!! x
    Sophie Cliff

  21. Your 2016 on reflection post really resonates with me as it was so real, conveying true aspects of your year as a whole. Well done for getting through it Elle, it doesn't sound like things have been easy for you but you've come through the other side and are clearly an inspiration to your readers including me. As for your ex, what an idiot. Has he seen the fabulous photos and how gorgeous you look in this post?! His loss! Best wishes for 2017. As you say, loyalty can be hard to come by but life lessons make you stronger for the future,
    Jaz xoxo
    http://www.thelifeofasocialbutterfly.co.uk

  22. Laura says:

    Loved this post Elle! You look beautiful too πŸ™‚

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  23. So COOL! Love everything about this post my dearest :)))
    Much love, Hadasah
    http://www.styletolove.com

  24. Great post, love the top and the jewellery is so pretty! Hope you are having a lovely day! Gemma x
    http://www.jacquardflower.uk

  25. - Karen says:

    I just want to give you the biggest hug after reading this. I love how your writing is always from the heart. Look how gorgeous you look here!!! Such pretty, bouncy locks!:)

    Style Sunriseβ˜€

    πŸ™‚
    x

  26. Love this post, and I can relate to so many of these things x

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  27. Kate says:

    I really love the concept of New Year, Same Me. I do love taking stock at the end of the year and setting new goals, but at the same time it's so important to realise what you're already doing that's good. Otherwise, as you say, it all gets a bit too negative! Totally love your top by the way. x

    Kate Louise Blogs / Wonderbra Giveaway

  28. Jayd Alice says:

    While I'm always a big advocat for the 'new year, new me' stuff, I bloody loved reading this and I couldn't agree with it more! We spend too much time picking faults with ourselves instead of focusing on the good things about us and it's something I'll definitely be more aware of doing! I hope 2017 is a fab one for you chick – you deserve it! x

    Always, Alice – Huge New Year Giveaway!

  29. You look great babe! Hope you had a great start of 2017!

    Xx,

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  30. Caroline says:

    Lovely post Elle! – You always comes across as beautifully as you are! πŸ™‚
    I love this post and it is so true that we always have so much we want to change about ourselves. If were happy and love (not like that) ourselves, then can't we stay stay as we are.. – My recent post is similar in 2016 being a year of realisation that I couldn't care less about somethings. πŸ™‚
    2017 is going to be awesome to you! You deserve it! xxx

    Caroline.
    http://www.carolineelgeywhite.com

  31. Love how positive this post was and my god it was refreshing to read in a sea of posts where everyone is talking about what they don't like about themselves and what they want to change.

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

  32. I've given up on New Year's resolutions and it's nice to read your positive thoughts, Elle. I like the bracelet in particular

    Suze | LuxuryColumnist

  33. Queen Beady says:

    Such a gorgeous sentiment to this, I know there ARE things I'd like to change about me but resolutions aren't the way to do it, it's just demoralising like you say. And if you fail, you feel even worse! But it's always worth remembering that there are good points abut ourselves and we need to celebrate them too.
    I love being that person that bring a shy person or someone whose on their own and introducing them to new people. There's nothing worse than seeing people on their own, if they want to be left alone that's great but if I can help in anyway, I'm there!
    Bee | QueenBeady.com

  34. honest Mum says:

    Love this post, you are an amazing lady and the more you can remind yourself of this, the stronger you will feel. You have boundless energy, strength and talent. Know it and own it. Gorgeous girl, I've loved getting to know you more via your blog, hope we get to meet one day. Keep reminding yourself 'you've got this' whatever shows up. I'm the same re being friendly. I was maternal pre-kids and it's that vibe that makes you so endearing. Honesty, integrity and being yourself. Mwah x

  35. Love this post Ellie, I totally agree with the points you make… you really are one of the friendliest, loyal and strong ladies I've come to know through this little industry and I cannot wait to see what 2017 holds for you!

    Emma | HarmonyBlaze.co.uk

  36. Rachel-Beth says:

    I love this post- I think that it's definitely better to look at the good things about ourselves, then pick at ourselves to make 'resolutions.' I'm sorry about your crappy end to the year, but whenever you're feeling down you need to look at this list and remember how kick-ass awesome you are!! Also, your off-shoulder starry top makes me happy

    Rachel xx
    http://www.thedailyluxe.net

  37. Anonymous says:

    Such a beautiful look, love your new Gucci bag (thanks for that great unboxing!) + I have the same pair of shoes πŸ˜‰
    Nati xx

    http://www.simplyartdicted.com

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